What You Need To Know
As a California law firm, we have over 40 years of experience serving clients in Fair Oaks and the surrounding areas. During that time, we have noticed that most couples tend to ask many of the same questions. We’ve put together some of these and their answers for your convenience. Note that these are just general answers. Only an attorney can give you advice that applies accurately and directly to your specific situation.
What should I do to prepare myself for a divorce?
Divorce can take an emotional toll on people, even when they want to separate from their partners. Starting over alone can feel frightening, especially for dependent spouses who will now have less income. Because of this, many people start their divorce journeys by seeking therapy.
It’s also a good idea to start gathering and organizing all the information you need to proceed. Everything from bank statements to the title for the house might prove useful. If you have already informed your spouse that you want a divorce, they can also assist with this process. Consider your situation carefully before deciding if you wish to tell your spouse about your intention to divorce before or after gathering all the information you can.
When is it a good time to tell my spouse I want a divorce?
There is no easy answer to this question. There are certainly some instances when it might be best to wait until the very last minute to let a spouse know you mean to divorce them. For example, domestic violence survivors might want to ensure they get themselves and the children to safety and then serve the papers.
However, in most other instances, it is best to let your spouse know beforehand that you wish to get a divorce. Blindsiding them with divorce papers might lead to resentment and set divorce proceedings off to a rockier start than if you had given them some time to mentally prepare for a legal and permanent separation.
Who can serve the divorce papers?
You might feel surprised to learn that someone else needs to serve the papers. Generally, California Courts require someone unconnected with the case to do this. At McCunn Law, we can often recommend individuals for you to choose from, which often includes licensed process servers or even your own family members or friends.